As Family Mediation Practitioners we provide service for people who are in conflict to provide support in their communication with each other about what is important for them and how to make decisions relevant to resolving their dispute. We aim to help clients to sort out issues and develop acceptable solutions, that potentially lead to mutually satisfactory agreements. As part of the process we might recommend Family Constellation to help you see issues beyond your individual system.
Family Dispute Resolution (FDR) is now compulsory, meaning that people who wish to resolve disputes relevant to their children (parenting matters), are now required to attend Family Dispute Resolution and make a genuine effort to resolve issues, before they progress through the court system. If you want to apply to the court for a parenting order, you will need the Section 60I certificate from a registered Family Dispute Resolution practitioner to confirm that an attempt at Family Dispute Resolution was made. Section 60I certificates serve the sole purpose of allowing people to file an application in court.
Good afternoon, my name is Tatiana. I am 39 years old. Four years ago, I had an accident, after which my life completely changed. I lost a lot of strength, health, husband, good work. Life is divided into before and after. I addressed many different psychologists, went to trainings and seminars, but everything returned to normal. In September 2018, I turned to Riva Furman with a request that I was afraid to do anything, because nothing works, everything ends badly, and it feels like if I do anything, the result is only worse. She worked with me with her unique method, which includes hypnotherapy and systemic constellations. I saw that I was still living in that situation with the accident, although I thought that I had worked it completely. There were documents that I kept for 4 years and a strong hatred of one of the women with whom fate had brought me together. And I could not leave everything in the past and held on to them. I am very grateful to Riva that she showed it to me, I was finally able, after working with her, to get rid of the documents that held me back, to thank the situation, to finally say goodbye to the situation. Riva also helped me to end the relationship with that woman and move on with my life. Riva works very carefully and deeply, you can fully trust and open up to her. Thank you Riva.
I will give an example. During each workshop, we make a specific request about what we would like to change in our life. I made a request “what do I need to do to enjoy communicating with my children?”. I love my children, of course. They 5 and 6 years old and raising them without any support of grandparents is not easy. In addition, I have my own business and I am very tired mentally and physically as I am also very active person and I have many hobbies too. As a result, when it comes to vacation, for example, I do not consider the option of taking my children to a trip. For me it is more straining rather than relaxing. And I really wanted it to be different. To be able to communicate with joy, not just responsibility. After the workshop everything changed. Do not ask me how, but suddenly I realised that my children had grown up and it was interesting and joyful to talk to them. I stopped thinking only about the need to feed them or putting them to sleep. This routine no longer takes so much mental energy from me. There is a feeling of joy and tranquility, it is no longer exhausting, there is no need to make an effort or push yourself. Made my life easier? Sure. Now there is an opportunity to go on vacation alone, and for the first time I thought that I actually prefer to go with my children. It’s fantastic! Six months ago, such thoughts would cause shock in me.
Changes occur after each session. Somethings are easier, sometimes you need to work on issues for longer. Any changes pushing you to work on yourself but I really like the dynamics that occur in my life since I decided to join Riva’s workshops.
Thank you very much, Riva, for your work!